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몇몇 유투브 영상에서 추천을 받아 읽은 책이다.

슬픔이란 감정, 아니 상태라고 하는 게 더 맞을 거 같다. 슬픔이란 상태를 이해하고 용기있게 직면하고 받아들일 수 있게 도와주는 휼룽한 에세이였다.

많은 사람들이 슬픔에 대해 얘기하는 것을 꺼려하고 두려워한다. 슬픔을 드러내지도 못해서 '슬픔의 섬에 자신을 유폐한 채 혼자 고통스러워한다'고 한다. 암묵적으로 금기시되어 있는 주제를 끄집어내서 그런지 슬픔에 대해 어느정도의 객관성을 담보하고 정말 솔직하게 서술했다. 특히 슬픈 상태에서 슬픔의 감정만 느끼지 않고 굉장히 복합적인 감정을 느끼는 경우도 많다고 한 부분이 인상적이었다. 단 한가지의 이유로 감정이 촉발되는 경우도 있지만 대부분의 경우에 다양한 이유로 감정이 촉발된다고 생각하는 나는, 장례식장에 조문을 갔을 때 고인에 대해 애도하는 마음 뿐만 아니라 이런저런 딴 생각들 혹은 감정들도 올라오는 게 자연스럽다고는 생각했지만 종종 이래도 되는건지 의문이 들었었다. '슬픔의 위안'의 해당 파트가 평소에 가지고 있던 내 의문을 시원하게 해소해주었다.

이 책은 내용도 훌륭하지만 구성도 훌륭하다. 슬픔의 요소들, 슬픔을 대하는 법, 슬픔의 흔적 등을 순서대로 서술해서 독자는 슬픔에 대해 알고 대하는 태도를 정립하고, 이를 바탕으로 슬픔에 관해 다양하게 가지치기를 할 수 있다. 

옮긴이의 말 전, 본문의 마지막 페이지는 삶에서 이별을 겪어본 사람이라면 심금이 울릴 수밖에 없도록 책의 마무리를 예술적으로 해놨다. 이 전의 풀어놓은 것들을 한 번에 깔끔하게 마무리 짓는 훌륭한 마지막 페이지였다.

이별은 누구나 겪기에, 인간의 근본적인 상태 혹은 감정인 슬픔에 대해 많은 것들 전달해주는 훌륭한 에세이였다. 구성, 문체, 내용 모두 걸리는 부분이 없었다.

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It's unimportant in my life so I won't change my life. Of course, it might be so helpful in my life and my family's life but It's not all of life. The most important value that I think is the 'stability'. I feel comfortable when I'm in my life routine. When I wake up at a fixed time and go to work or school, I can feel myself intact. Despite the stress from work or school, stability is bigger than the stress from them. Without a life routine after getting money, I will lose all of my money in 2years. I should think that money is just for spare. When I can't control that money, I can't control my life. 

Thanks to technology, we can live more conveniently. We can move fast, can keep in touch online, can see something on the screen, etc. But as technology advances, the amount of information is increasing. We know that we didn't know before because of some limitations. We have to consider them in all situations. If we still don't know them, we don't have to consider them carefully. We would just do it! Technology makes our life more complicated.

The more you know, the more responsibility you have. When we know about something not much, we think about it just simply. Even If it's too inefficient and irrational, just did it. 

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이탈리아어로 ' 쇠로 만든 길'이라는 뜻이다.

말뜻처럼 가파른 암벽에 굻은 와이어를 볼트나 하켄으로 고정시키고 그 길을 따라 확보줄 두 개에 연결된 카라비너를 번갈아 끼우면서 등반하는 기술이다. 

나중에 꼭 해보고싶은 등반 중 하나이다.

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I absolutely love physical books more. Ebooks are good too. They are light and cheap. We can easily make an underline without worries about the book. Even, I've thought I have to buy an ebook reader because I can take ebooks easily everywhere so I want to read books while camping or traveling. It's on my bucket list. 

However, ebooks are just a replacement for physical books. We cannot feel the individuality of each book when we read ebooks. All books are different appearances. They have different covers, different textures of paper, sizes, etc. We used to remember the book through those factors, making it special. Not only the content but also those factors are the identities of the book. Not only that, we can feel the past through the book. There are many traces in the old book. We can see a mark of soup, a nosebleed mark, some underlines, and some folded edges. The book becomes the only book of mine in the world. That's why I love physical books more. There are only two bad things about physical books. They are expensive and heavy. Without them, ebooks cannot overcome physical books.

I can figure out whether a person is weird or not by observing one's body shape and physiognomy. I can feel something on someone's face, especially in someone's eyes. I think that it's kind of a combination of my intuition and my big data of people. The person who makes me feel strange almost was a strange and weird person. Even if the person seems just a common person, the person usually makes a problem later so my intuition detects the strange person and the detection is almost right. It's really hard to explain but my intuition with data was almost correct.

In addition, I can feel something about someone's body shape. A strange person usually has strange legs shape and round shoulders with a turtle neck. I don't know why about the shape of the legs but round shoulders with turtle a neck is a big evidence of low confidence. That kind of person usually has low confidence and rarely has a victim mentality so they look at the world crookedly. That's why they seem like strange and weird people.

There are many ways to discover new music. Once, I used to discover new music on the youtube music channel like 'Yellow Mixtape'. I discovered much amazing music! I've still listened to it. Additionally, I like the related music recommendation system of some music programs. I can start with my music but I can go through to music that I've never heard and been interested in. Another way is just a coincidence. When I'm out, I can listen to various music in cafes, streets, and restaurants. In those places, I can discover amazing music like Fate. I am rarely obsessed with music that I met outside. 

Absolutely swimming! Especially, swimming in the valley is the most refreshing thing on a hot summer day. We can't ignore the cup ramyeon and watermelon while swimming. I love it. Usually, the water of the valley is much colder than the water of the beach so it makes us much refreshed. I'm good at swimming and I can enjoy the valley completely! I'm good at playing on the valley using the topographical features. After swimming, whatever must be so delicious. Last year, I couldn't play in the water during all summer days because of ankle ligament surgery so I want to enjoy the water completely this summer!